03 Dec 2009
You Can Surrender and Let GoPsychoanalysis and psychology tell us that repression is unhealthy. Yet, we frequently find ourselves repressing ourselves when we are resisting something new. The'funny' thing is, we resist the new even in numerous times where we're on the edge of having a new desire manifest in our life, or where we are about to reach or learn something new and excellent.
What we repress in these instances is our wish to surrender to something new and powerful that we think will make our life miles better than it was before. We want to surrender to this new wave of good fortune, let it wash over us, carry us where we would like to be, where we feel we belong now.
However we have a problem : we've been taught that only little children surrender, and they do so because they are weak and helpless or don't know any better. We've been taught that folk who surrender are defeated people--after all, if there is a war and your side surrenders, your side lost and the enemy can impose its will on you. If you surrender all hope, you have completely given up on having or doing something you wanted. So--if you surrender to something you are weak, or ignorant, or you've been beaten ; and in all of those cases you are in danger of being hurt.
Yet, as we use'surrender' as a usually negative metaphor, we do not see that surrendering to something actually just means to stop resisting it ; and if that something is good and superb, why should not we surrender to it? of course, this means we must give up our fake sense of already being perfect and complete. We surrender this idea ; we surrender to the best thing that's trying to tear down our walls of scared resistance so it can present us with its blessings.
Doubtless the most prominent example we have of this is falling in love. When many people are finding themselves falling madly in love with somebody, or they meet somebody who could very well be a dream ( wo ) man, they don't show their feelings for them. As an important point, how many of us essentially give the person mixed or fake signals? We try to cheat them ; we make them think that we don't find them to be anything special...we do not need them...sure they are nice and we enjoy their company but that's's the way that we feel about many people, what's so neat about them?..we truly hate to burst their bubble, but...they have no power over us!
As an interesting point, we would tell ourselves those really same lies. Why do we do these childish things when it comes to the greatest force in the world--love? We fear being hurt, that is the reason why. What if we surrender to our love only to find out that we're not good enough and don't make them happy? What if the relationship turns bad after some year and it all has to end? What if ( s ) he turns out to truly be some ghastly beast? What if...what if...?
'What if' can be used as a statement of novel opportunities, but too many times it is getting used as a statement of fear. We don't have to fear the love that comes to find us. We can surrender to it sweetly, and let ourselves be swept away in grace and beauty, repressed and harming ourselves no more.
Letting Go
Letting go of the old is one of the hardest things in the world for most human beings. Letting go of old worn-out habits, old ineffectual thought patterns, old routines that simply do not fit anymore, old impressions of places or individuals that are now no longer useful, old feelings that are emotional scars that may not heal and get in the way of progress, are all things that most of the people when reading of them nod their heads and agree should be thrown away like an old ratty security blanket from youth. Yet, how few of those folk actually would ditch or learn past these things! Most would just continue holding on to them.
Change--which is the one sustained in the universe and in life--is quite a frightening thing for most people. Not little changes, for small changes are so common to our everyday experience that we even take them for granted. We take for granted the sky will change and it's going to be lighter today and darker tonight, or if it is cloudy today it'll be bright in a day or two. We even take for granted some longer-term changes ; we know that we were shorter and weaker when we were five than we are now, and we know that the short, feeble five-year-old before us will one day grow into a taller, stronger woman or man. There are even some sad changes that we take for granted : if we have a pet dog we know that one day that dog will grow old and die. We hate to consider that day and so we rarely do, but we know it will occur and we do not lose sleep over it.
But there are more norms that we adhere to with a quiet despair, and anything that threatens to switch them we feel threatens us. The thing of it really is, all of these changes have to do with things that are inside us. They might be embodied in outward circumstances, for example our careers or houses, but even then they have to do with what we feel we are as a soul, a personality.
There is one thing that most adults fear more than death or, it seems, even physical torture. And that'thing' is being wrong. It is this fear of being wrong that prevents us, most of the time, from letting go of the old. Too many times, when we are about to let go of the old we feel that we are admitting to having been wrong ( and the assumption that there's something shameful about being wrong is itself a negative, fake assumption ). You see, we feel as if we have invested just far too much time and energy to learn and work out what we think we have. We have therefore , an overpoweringly dynamic emotional investment in what we think we know--our techniques of doing stuff, our concerns, our beliefs, our feelings about folks and places and things.
The ego, which is rightly the gatekeeper to our spirit, asserts to us,'Wait a minute! You are considering changing you techniques with this? You are preparing to change your opinion about that? Don't you remember when that certain event occurred to you that proved to you that the way you've been doing things since then works? You're safe! Why change? It may be very dangerous!'
But the ego forgets that change is the only constant in life. It forgets the past is dead ; only the here and now is real. We are able to let go of the old when we find that it's no longer helpful, or it gets in the way of a new level of feat, or our circumstances have changed. It is natural for us to let go of the old ; for as youngsters we do so easily. But as we age, we become a bit more and a bit more expected to have permanent knowledge of stuff. Our society values our pride in thinking we know everything. Instead, we can and must learn how to take pleasure in being courageous about messing up, changing, seeing a new perspective, letting go of the old, and reveling in the unending journey the end being not an arrival but an evolution into ever-new probabilities.
If you are hunting for a tool or method that will help you to let go, there are a number of options you can consider. However , one that i have found to work outstandingly well for me is the Sedona Method. It is a easy and easy-to-learn system that will work for anyone. You learn how to tap your natural capability to let go of uncomfortable and unwanted feelings on the spot. It will help you release old patterns of agony, damaging habits, or noxious relations.
When you would like to buy the Sedona Method course, check out a review to ratify that it is what you are looking for. I discovered from a Sedona Method review that it is unique is in its universal applicability. You just need to check the list of conditions that may receive benefit from this one simple, yet powerful, tool that are mentioned on the site.
These are some other sites I now enjoy reading. All of the best!
How You Can Improve Your SE Rank with Backlinks
Improve Your Credit History
Ways To Stop Drowning in Debt Today
Can Mind Power Help You Create Change In Your Life?
What we repress in these instances is our wish to surrender to something new and powerful that we think will make our life miles better than it was before. We want to surrender to this new wave of good fortune, let it wash over us, carry us where we would like to be, where we feel we belong now.
However we have a problem : we've been taught that only little children surrender, and they do so because they are weak and helpless or don't know any better. We've been taught that folk who surrender are defeated people--after all, if there is a war and your side surrenders, your side lost and the enemy can impose its will on you. If you surrender all hope, you have completely given up on having or doing something you wanted. So--if you surrender to something you are weak, or ignorant, or you've been beaten ; and in all of those cases you are in danger of being hurt.
Yet, as we use'surrender' as a usually negative metaphor, we do not see that surrendering to something actually just means to stop resisting it ; and if that something is good and superb, why should not we surrender to it? of course, this means we must give up our fake sense of already being perfect and complete. We surrender this idea ; we surrender to the best thing that's trying to tear down our walls of scared resistance so it can present us with its blessings.
Doubtless the most prominent example we have of this is falling in love. When many people are finding themselves falling madly in love with somebody, or they meet somebody who could very well be a dream ( wo ) man, they don't show their feelings for them. As an important point, how many of us essentially give the person mixed or fake signals? We try to cheat them ; we make them think that we don't find them to be anything special...we do not need them...sure they are nice and we enjoy their company but that's's the way that we feel about many people, what's so neat about them?..we truly hate to burst their bubble, but...they have no power over us!
As an interesting point, we would tell ourselves those really same lies. Why do we do these childish things when it comes to the greatest force in the world--love? We fear being hurt, that is the reason why. What if we surrender to our love only to find out that we're not good enough and don't make them happy? What if the relationship turns bad after some year and it all has to end? What if ( s ) he turns out to truly be some ghastly beast? What if...what if...?
'What if' can be used as a statement of novel opportunities, but too many times it is getting used as a statement of fear. We don't have to fear the love that comes to find us. We can surrender to it sweetly, and let ourselves be swept away in grace and beauty, repressed and harming ourselves no more.
Letting Go
Letting go of the old is one of the hardest things in the world for most human beings. Letting go of old worn-out habits, old ineffectual thought patterns, old routines that simply do not fit anymore, old impressions of places or individuals that are now no longer useful, old feelings that are emotional scars that may not heal and get in the way of progress, are all things that most of the people when reading of them nod their heads and agree should be thrown away like an old ratty security blanket from youth. Yet, how few of those folk actually would ditch or learn past these things! Most would just continue holding on to them.
Change--which is the one sustained in the universe and in life--is quite a frightening thing for most people. Not little changes, for small changes are so common to our everyday experience that we even take them for granted. We take for granted the sky will change and it's going to be lighter today and darker tonight, or if it is cloudy today it'll be bright in a day or two. We even take for granted some longer-term changes ; we know that we were shorter and weaker when we were five than we are now, and we know that the short, feeble five-year-old before us will one day grow into a taller, stronger woman or man. There are even some sad changes that we take for granted : if we have a pet dog we know that one day that dog will grow old and die. We hate to consider that day and so we rarely do, but we know it will occur and we do not lose sleep over it.
But there are more norms that we adhere to with a quiet despair, and anything that threatens to switch them we feel threatens us. The thing of it really is, all of these changes have to do with things that are inside us. They might be embodied in outward circumstances, for example our careers or houses, but even then they have to do with what we feel we are as a soul, a personality.
There is one thing that most adults fear more than death or, it seems, even physical torture. And that'thing' is being wrong. It is this fear of being wrong that prevents us, most of the time, from letting go of the old. Too many times, when we are about to let go of the old we feel that we are admitting to having been wrong ( and the assumption that there's something shameful about being wrong is itself a negative, fake assumption ). You see, we feel as if we have invested just far too much time and energy to learn and work out what we think we have. We have therefore , an overpoweringly dynamic emotional investment in what we think we know--our techniques of doing stuff, our concerns, our beliefs, our feelings about folks and places and things.
The ego, which is rightly the gatekeeper to our spirit, asserts to us,'Wait a minute! You are considering changing you techniques with this? You are preparing to change your opinion about that? Don't you remember when that certain event occurred to you that proved to you that the way you've been doing things since then works? You're safe! Why change? It may be very dangerous!'
But the ego forgets that change is the only constant in life. It forgets the past is dead ; only the here and now is real. We are able to let go of the old when we find that it's no longer helpful, or it gets in the way of a new level of feat, or our circumstances have changed. It is natural for us to let go of the old ; for as youngsters we do so easily. But as we age, we become a bit more and a bit more expected to have permanent knowledge of stuff. Our society values our pride in thinking we know everything. Instead, we can and must learn how to take pleasure in being courageous about messing up, changing, seeing a new perspective, letting go of the old, and reveling in the unending journey the end being not an arrival but an evolution into ever-new probabilities.
If you are hunting for a tool or method that will help you to let go, there are a number of options you can consider. However , one that i have found to work outstandingly well for me is the Sedona Method. It is a easy and easy-to-learn system that will work for anyone. You learn how to tap your natural capability to let go of uncomfortable and unwanted feelings on the spot. It will help you release old patterns of agony, damaging habits, or noxious relations.
When you would like to buy the Sedona Method course, check out a review to ratify that it is what you are looking for. I discovered from a Sedona Method review that it is unique is in its universal applicability. You just need to check the list of conditions that may receive benefit from this one simple, yet powerful, tool that are mentioned on the site.
These are some other sites I now enjoy reading. All of the best!
How You Can Improve Your SE Rank with Backlinks
Improve Your Credit History
Ways To Stop Drowning in Debt Today
Can Mind Power Help You Create Change In Your Life?
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